Gathering Around the Friendship Fire

Communities of old were created and bound by a collective ethos that included a common ethnicity and geography, as well as shared religious beliefs and traditions. Gathering around the fire combined the needs of survival with stories and song that ignited generations with spiritual sustenance.

In our modern Western world, we sit amid the ruins of what community used to be. Our tapestry of human bonds is becoming threadbare beneath the weight of overly scheduled lives, screen distraction and social divisions. Despite having constant contact with others on our phones, newsfeeds and online conference rooms, we may sometimes feel like lone travelers across a tundra of isolation.

In nature, symbiotic relationships between fungi and trees, flowers and insects, and certain species of animals are the foundation of life. As much as 70 percent of forest flora depend upon winged creatures for pollination, and lichens are often composed of three organisms living together harmoniously. 

As we go through the workday, drive the kids to practice and scramble to get dinner on the table, it is easy to forget that we, too, are part of the natural order. Fostering life-nourishing connections helps us to cope and thrive, while prioritizing openness can become much-needed soul medicine.

Summer days are often treasured for the memories we make with those we love, yet to-do lists loom over our heads as August winds down. This year, let's take the spirit of summer into the cooler months and vow to spend quality time with loved ones, mend the broken threads in our relationships and enjoy each other’s company in the present moment. We can choose to appreciate everyone—from the supermarket cashier to the family dentist—and see their worthy contributions interwoven in our own lives. In doing so, we might remember our own invaluable roles in the fabric of life.

To rekindle and build community, join a local group or class to share a passion; chitchat with someone while standing in line at the grocery store; or invite a neighbor to spend quality time together. Take every opportunity to make a connection.    

Marlaina Donato is an author, painter and composer. Connect at BluefireStudio.art.

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